Austin Hicks here
This Blog is based on Finding love, Optimal Experience, Confidence, Self Value and "getting lucky"
All of the below information is very accurate and helpful for both men and woman to understand what confines our true desires in all aspects of life and life experience.
Thank you for listening and ENJOY!!
For men these days we think the key to getting "lucky" is based on how drunk she is, what to say, what your wearing, and even how you smell (axe! >:l). Non of these are going to help you in the long run.
Men are literally caught up in the idea that they aren't worthy enough for woman. Men typically think that they need to have to add something to themselves to further define their value. Although buying a new pair of shoes does make you feel confident for at least two weeks or a month at best. You are literally buying confidence which comes from your sense of self. So why can't you just let yourself feel confident?
One thing I've learned about alcohol is that it allows you to stop thinking. It allows a space for courage hence "liquid courage", it allows you to let go of who you think you are. Thus allowing you to pursue that girl you truly want to experience.
Well first we need to understand how you truly feel about yourself. Ask yourself "why do I feel unworthy or shy or unwanted?" What are the beliefs you have about yourself? Make sure to not only realize what you fear BUT also ask yourself why you fear those fears, in doing this you find out what you truly fear underneith the fears you choose to fear. Sounds complicated right? Its not so reread if you need to and get started, dive into yourself. You may end up laughing at how stupid your beliefs are. Example, one belief I examined was about being afraid of being unwanted by someone, I thought that "If I interact with someone who doesn't approve of me or just plainly doesn't want me in their sight, then NO ONE would ever want me." Now, realizing that, I busted out in laughter at how silly that belief was. Another good example of this concept is "King Worm" the episode from Adventure Time when Fin gets lost in his dream and tries to escape by purposely experiencing what he fears most. In doing so he finds out that his true inner fears are not worth holding on to.
The next step, Insert a belief that you'd rather prefer to believe. Example, my new belief, while still standing in front of whoever it is that Im interacting with is "Thank you for being honest with me, thank you for showing me that you don't like me. NOW, I can leave you and find someone who really does like me." And in realizing the potential in that new belief you instantly transform indifference into love, empathy, and confidence. You no longer depend on outside approval to feel great about yourself. In short, the power has always been in what you define yourself to BE. In doing this you become a new person, a stronger person, a loving person, a complete person, a person with nothing to lose. And that my friend is golden.
